Showing posts with label India. Show all posts
Showing posts with label India. Show all posts

Saturday, 5 May 2018

There’s Something I Have Been Meaning To Tell You

Chapter 2

Kirti wrote for a parenting magazine. She had researched or experienced almost all sorts of subjects when it came to raising a child—from how to make your child kinder to how to stop compensating for being a busy mom. What she had not (yet) thought of was a way to get out of a situation when your friend finds out she shares DNA with your nine-year-old child.

Fight or flight, Kirti is thinking as the pregnant pause gave birth to a baby and stretched until Vir comes back from the washroom. Sana is still staring at her classmate from college who she rarely spoke to. They were just very different from each other, she always thought. If Kirti was involved in all co-curricular and revolutionary activities such as upstaging a teacher or planning a mass bunk, Sana quietly stayed with her group of friends and passively entertained the ideas. It was all in good fun—and no one could plan a better fest or farewell. 

Rendered speechless for the first time. 

Kirti picks up her bag and tells Vir, “Sorry Champ, umm… I just got a call for an urgent story. We have to go.”

Vir looks up from his plate and says with a mouthful of something that Kirti didn’t see him eat, “But mom, the magazine is wrapped up. It’s too early for the next issue.” 

“No, it’s the digital issue. Let’s go.”

Vir says bye to Sana and his aunt smiles. Flight.

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“Fuck. Fuck. Fuckity fuck. Fuck!”

Kirti is standing at Sana’s doorstep, working up the nerve to ring the bell. Unbeknownst to her, Sana knows she’s outside. It was hard to miss the five foot, nine inches nervous energy on the camera, rubbing her damp hands on her jeans and tugging at her black t-shirt. 

Sana waits at her dining table, giving her friend the time she needs. If she’s alone, then Vir must be with his grandfather, her mother’s side. 

Kirti brings herself to do it. Her speech is ready; she has recited it twice in the car and she knows what she needs to say exactly. But as Sana opens the door, looking calm and composed in her sundress, smiling encouragingly at her, she blurts out, “How the fuck did you find out?”

Gesturing her to follow her, Sana turns around and takes her place at the dining table. Kirti is too agitated to sit, so she is pacing across the room as she explains miserably, “I never told anyone. And yes, that includes your brother. My own father has no clue. It was just one night. One! I didn’t plan on it, I swear. But I have never regretted Vir for a second. He’s my life.”

“Why didn’t you tell him?”

Kirti stops and looks at her, “Well, let’s see. We weren’t dating. He slept with me and left the next morning before I woke up.”

“You could have still told him.”

“Oh yeah? When? When he left for the US without even mentioning it to me? Or when he started dating that firang? Or, when I called him two weeks before I was due and he said he would call me back and never did?”

“He was always an idiot.”

“I second that.” She mutters in angers and then rapidly explains, “Sana, I tracked you down because I wanted Vir to meet you, to know you. I never figured you’d become so close. The past few months have been the happiest days of his life.”

“Vir knows?”

“Of course. I told him when he was seven. And he promised he would always be on my side.”

An impassioned voice from the back of room speaks, “Then why did he call me and beg me to come back, Kirti?”

“Jesus H Christ!” 


Sunday, 6 January 2013

Not 'Just' A Girl


I dream of an India where mothers don’t teach daughters that they are responsible for maintaining their homes. I dream of an India where a girl gets to decide whether or not a she wishes to marry; where she can have an opinion; where she has the right to dream. I dream of an India where man is not the beast; where I can walk without fear; where I am not scared; where I can be myself without inviting acid attacks, rapes and reproach from the society.  

But it doesn’t exist. This does.

Mohan Bhagwat, RSS Chief: “Crimes against women happen in India and not in Bharat."
"Theory of contract, theory of social contract, a husband and wife are bound by a contract which says 'you (woman) look after the household chores and satisfy me, I (man) will take care of your needs and will protect you', and until she delivers her duties without fail, he keeps her on the contract and if she fails to honour the contract, he disowns her and if it is the same with the husband who is not honouring the contract, she can also abandon him and go for a new contract then."

Vijaywargiya, Minister, Madhya Pradesh: "Only when Sitaji crossed the Lakshman rekha, she was kidnapped by Ravan...If Sitaji (woman) crosses the Lakshman rekha, then 'Sitaharan' (crime against them) is bound to take place as Ravans are out there."

Abhijeet Mukherjee, Pranab Mukherjee’s son and MP: “I can see many beautiful women among them - highly dented-painted - they're giving interviews on TV, they've brought their children to show them the scenes. I have grave doubts whether they're students, because women of that age are generally not students."

Mulayam Singh Yadav, Former CM: "Only girls and women from affluent class can go forward. Remember this, you (rural women) will not get a chance. Our rural women did not have that much attraction."

Om Prakash Chautala, Former CM: “The Mughal sultanate in this country used to misbehave with women... to prevent that, people started getting their young girls married early so that no one did anything wrong to them… currently a similar situation is arising in the state.”

Dharamvir Goyat, Haryana Pradesh Congress committee (HPCC) member: "If we go into the details of rape cases and abductions, it is found that victims and accused in 90% of cases are runaway couples. So the cases are consensual."

Sheila Dixit, CM, Delhi: "All by herself till 3 am at night in a city where people believe...you know...you should not be so adventurous.''

Shushil Kumar Shinde, Home Minister (to Jaya Bachchan): "This is a serious matter. This is not the subject of a film."

Sharad Yadav, Janata Dal United: "Only certain women who lived in cities like Delhi and Lucknow would benefit who are nothing but "par kati auraten'' (women with short hair)."

Sanjay Nirupam, MP (to Smriti Irani): “Till recently you were shaking your hips on TV for money, and now suddenly you have become a political analyst.”

Muqtar Abbas Naqvi, Vice President, BJP: “Some women wearing lipstick and powder have taken to the streets in Mumbai and are abusing politicians and spreading dissatisfaction against democracy. This is what terrorists are doing in Jammu and Kashmir.”

Mamata Banerjee, CM, Kolkata: "Earlier if men and women would hold hands, they would get caught by parents and reprimanded but now everything is so open. It's like an open market with open options."

Sushma Swaraj, BJP: “Rape victims are living dead.”

Tuesday, 11 December 2012

Get A Life!

To begin with, I’d just like to thank TOI for making my week. Ever since they started their Get A Life campaign, I have been almost hopeful. Well done, guys! As a matter of fact, this post is completely for them.

Those who know me, know that I don’t want to live in this country. Above and beyond, the reason is the sick mentality of men who think we are sex objects living to give them pleasure. If my own experiences on the road were not enough, I found the scary neighbor – newspapers. I won’t even begin with all the rape stories I read in the newspapers but safe to say, it is all very disturbing. Do I want to live in the country where even 3 year olds get raped? Unlikely. So yes, the first chance I get, I’m out of here. There is no way to change mindset of the public who blames the victim; the ministers who say girls shouldn’t be wearing inappropriate clothes or getting out of the house after 8 pm. May be they should teach some values to men but eh, they have testosterone and that’s enough in this country. I was born unlucky; ergo I have to suffer.

All men may not think that way. But I can bet my life on this – most of them do. They may not grope women but they do pass comments, call them ‘maal’ and sing cheap songs. What is this Munni-Shiela anyway? Don’t we have enough problems that Bollywood is adding up more to the lot? Stop with these songs already. They are demeaning, derogatory and IDIOTIC! This is not artistic; this is simply being oblivious to the issues we are facing as a nation. Are you guys dense or something? Portray women as strong and independent, not as sex objects you morons!

What TOI is doing is a beginning. If all the newspapers pick up the cause, people might wake up! They just might. May be then we will feel safe in this country.